Whether you and your roommate(s) are bffs or whether you and your
roommate(s) do not have the best relationship and only interact when needed, roommates have a huge impact on your college experience, especially your first year. My first year I lived in a triple and although my two roommates and I had more differences than similarities, we survived 10 months of living together. My first year roommate experience was interesting because I got the “bff” roommate
experience with one roommate but did not have the best relationship with the other and we interacted minimally. Living with another person, in some cases two other people, can get difficult and it will be a challenge but the best way to avoid conflict is communication and
honesty.At the beginning of the year you and your roommate(s) will fill
out a roommate agreement form. The is meant to help compromise on: a mutual time to go to sleep, a mutual time to have the lights off, sharing arrangements, and other important details that you should answer honestly. Answering
honestly can prevent conflict. It is very important to remember that you do not have to be best friends with your roommate(s) but since you will see them every day it is important to communicate with them. Your room is an essential part of your college experience and it’s important for you to feel safe and comfortable. Here are
some tips to help you room with your roommate:
· If you feel strongly about a situation (like having lights off by 11pm) and they feel differently, compromise. It is your room but it is just as much their room so find a common ground and respect it!
· If you do not tell them how you really feel about a situation (like having company in the room at certain times they’ll assume it’s ok and you’ll become frustrated when it continuously happens.
· You may change your mind about certain agreements (like sharing items with your roommate(s)) & that’s okay! But remember to tell your roommates or they’ll never know.
· If you came to an agreement and your roommate(s) continuously break the agreement remind them that what you all agreed on! And if they continue talk to your RA.
· You may find yourself having conflict with your roommate but remember you’re in college now so going around telling everyone but your roommate how you feel is immature. If you’re upset with your roommate(s) talk to them don’t go around telling other people.
· There’s two sides to every story! So if you are arguing with your roommate(s) it is important for you to communicate how you feel but it is also important for you to listen to how they feel!
· Communicate before conflict arises!
Remember that having a roommate is a fun experience! Make the most of it! You never know your roommate your first year may be your best friend your fourth year!